How to Get Out of Your Head and Into Your Life

In this episode of Hell Yes Habits, Elyse Bushard discusses the detrimental effects of overthinking on personal confidence and joy. She emphasizes that clarity comes from action rather than excessive contemplation. Elyse introduces the 'five second rule' as a practical tool to combat overthinking and encourages listeners to embrace imperfect action towards their goals. The episode serves as a motivational reminder to break free from the paralysis of overthinking and to live a life filled with bold, decisive actions.

Takeaways

• Overthinking hijacks confidence and joy.
• Clarity comes from doing, not thinking.
• Action is more important than a perfect plan.
• Overthinking feels productive but is actually paralyzing.
• The five second rule can help combat overthinking.
• You need to decide if something is a 'hell yes.'
• Start messy and imperfectly to build confidence.
• Overthinking is a thief of time and energy.
• You were made for more than a small life.
• Trust yourself enough to just begin.

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Transcript

Elyse Bushard (00:01.998)
Hey friends, welcome back to Helly Yes Habits, the show that helps you create habits that support the life you actually want, not the one you've been told to settle for. It is Sunday, it is not Friday. I have been in a mood where I just want this pod, I'm not sure what I want out of this podcast anymore. I want,

it to be helpful. want to be consistent, but like I and I don't want to just record a podcast because just to record a podcast. So I want it to be something that I'm feeling in the moment and and something that will be helpful because it's helpful for me and I want to share it. So, yeah, that's where I'm at with the podcast right now.

but also I will still show up every week in some capacity. It just might not be on Fridays all the time. And I'm gonna start to, I get motivated, I'm gonna start recording more than one because that will be more sustainable for me as well. But back to today's podcast. Today,

we're talking about something that basically hijacks my personal confidence all the time, my joy, and my progress before I even take the first step in anything that I'm doing. And that is overthinking. And I'm sure that other people can relate to this because it really does. It hijacks our confidence, our joy.

our progress even before we take any action or next steps. And that is overthinking.

Elyse Bushard (02:06.337)
I feel like I'm not the only one who does this for a fact. And it's definitely a gut punch word for me that sounds very femrelier and it's very personal. But let's get into it because I have been trying out some new things and I would love to share them with you in hoping that they will help you as well. And basically,

Let's start out by just saying that overthinking isn't thinking. It's actually looping, it's spiraling, it's your brain doing mental gymnastics while your body sits frozen and afraid to move. And I get it. We want to make the right decision. We want to make the perfect plan. We want to know exactly how it'll play out before we take one step forward. But here's the truth.

Clarity doesn't come from overthinking or thinking at all. It comes from doing. And you don't think your way into confidence. You build it rep by rep and step by step. And I know overthinking feels productive. That's what's crazy about it. It actually feels like you're doing something when you're thinking about something. But all you're doing is

is making a color-coded list and the 47 Google tabs you have open on your computer at work or the late night scroll for inspo, I put this in quotes, that turns into a doom spiral of comparison. You've got your what ifs rehearsed like a Ted Talk in your mind and they almost become excuses, but do you know what you're missing in all of that?

It's action. And it's not gonna be perfect action. It's not glamorous Instagram worthy action. It's just one messy, awkward human step forward. Because that thing you're scared to start, that conversation, that goal, that new chapter, you don't need a perfect plan. You need to decide, is it a hell yes?

Elyse Bushard (04:34.012)
And if it is, you need to act like it. And let me tell you, let me just break it down because some of the most powerful things I've ever done started with me overthinking everything. Like, should I say it out loud? Should I even try? What if I fail? What if they judge me? What if I'm not enough? But here's what hit me one day.

is that overthinking was just a way of trying to protect myself from being uncomfortable, or it was to protect myself from discomfort and from rejection. Wow, that was hard word today. From looking stupid, from not being in control. And when I realized that, I had to choose, do I want to stay safe?

in the loop of overthinking? Or do I want to live a life that actually feels like

I'm gonna repeat that. And when I realized that I had to choose, do I want to stay safe in the loop of overthinking or do I want to live a life that actually feels like...

And this, you know I like to always apply something that you could use in real life that is, that can help you overcome this, that can help you fight it. this week's Holly Ass Habit is simple. And it's the five second rule. I don't know if you've ever,

Elyse Bushard (06:26.26)
heard of Mel Robbins, now this is probably the 12th time I've talked about her on this podcast. You need to follow her if you don't. You need to also read her books if you haven't, but it's the five second rule. it's essentially this concept that the second you feel yourself overthinking something, you already know what you wanna do. Countdown. So the second you feel yourself

overthinking something you already know you want to do, count down five, four, three, two, one, go. And send the email, sign up for the thing, say the hard truth, get out of your head and into motion. And this could work with so many things. It could also work with trying to form a habit of getting out of bed.

and counting to five. She uses that example as well. If your alarm goes off and you are a constant snoozer, I used to be a constant snoozer, and now I snooze a lot less than I, I push the snooze button a lot less than I used to. But if you count down from five and then you get up when your alarm goes off, it makes all the difference. It helps you form a habit.

And the same thing works with anything that you are overthinking because it is on your heart and in your mind for a reason. And so there's no reason why you shouldn't try it. And you don't need to be ready. You don't need to be, like it doesn't need to be perfect. It's not gonna be this perfect scenario that you should wait for it to act.

All you need to do is you need to be willing.

Elyse Bushard (08:26.088)
I know that was like a short episode again, but like this concept of overthinking is something that I do all the time. And I'm starting to become more aware of how it's inhibiting my, like the way I live my life, the way I want to live my life. So here is your reminder, straight from my heart and mind to yours.

is overthinking is a thief. It steals your time, it drains your energy, and worst of all, it keeps you small. But you, you my friends who are listening to this, you weren't made for small. You were made for hell yes. So start messy, move imperfectly, choose courage.

over certainty and watch what happens when you trust yourself enough to just begin. You've got this. Another short episode, another snappy episode, but like I feel like it's some of the fire that we need to also start the week. I kind of like recording on a Sunday because it helped me as well. But like I don't think I'll switch from Fridays, but.

I'm just saying if it ever happens like this again, it's not a bad thing. But see you next week guys and until then, just keep creating those habits that make your life feel like a hell yes. Love you guys.