
Hell Yes Habits
Hell Yes Habits, is for women ready to stop settling and start building the habits that lead to a life they truly love. Hosted by Elyse - a marketing professional by day and passionate HELL YES Habits coach by night - this show is your go-to resource for practical strategies, REAL conversations, and the inspiration you need to create a life that feels like a big, bold HELL YES. It's time to remind ourselves that the life you want isn't out of reach - it's waiting for you to say HELL YES.
Hell Yes Habits
Balance is a Myth (and That's Alright)
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In this episode of Hell Yes Habits, Elyse Bushard discusses the concept of balance, arguing that it is an illusion and that true fulfillment comes from intentional living and prioritizing what matters most. She emphasizes the importance of recognizing misalignment in our lives and offers actionable tips for weekly check-ins to assess priorities. The conversation encourages listeners to embrace imperfection and focus on clarity rather than striving for an unattainable balance.
Takeaways
- Balance doesn't exist; it's an illusion we chase.
- Intentional living is about prioritizing what matters most.
- Misalignment occurs when we prioritize things that don't matter to us.
- Life has seasons; it's okay to be out of balance sometimes.
- A weekly priority check-in can help maintain alignment.
- Ask yourself what can wait without guilt.
- Saying no is essential to protect your 'hell yes'.
- Your version of a fulfilling life can change weekly.
- Stop beating yourself up for feeling off balance; you're human.
- Embrace imperfection and focus on aligned priorities.
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Elyse Bushard (00:06)
welcome to Hell Yes Habits. I'm Elise, a marketing professional by day and your go-to coach for building the habits that create a life you can't wait to wake up to. I'm so glad you're here. This podcast is all about ditching the just fine mindset and making room for the magic in your everyday life. And let me tell you, this isn't just a podcast. It's the start of a movement, a Hell Yes Habits movement.
It's about breaking out of autopilot, showing up for yourself in ways that matter, and creating small but powerful habits that lead to a big, bold, hell yes kind of life. Each week, we'll have real, honest conversations about juggling all the things, career, relationships, family, and those moments when you just need you time. I'll share actionable tips, lessons from my own journey,
and inspiration to help you stop settling and start thriving, baby. You in?, let's do this.
Elyse Bushard (01:16)
Hello, hello friends. Welcome back to hell. Yes habits podcast I'm your host Elise Bechard and if that was your first intro to an episode ⁓ I'm not gonna be sorry because that is what you get here you get what you get in Is it the saying is you get what you get and you don't throw a fit. I feel like it is but
I am here, I am alive, and I'm thankful for that, ⁓ as we all should be. But honestly, this season of my life has just been, it's been hard. ⁓ It's been a roller coaster, and what I've realized is, well, first of all, welcome back if this is your...
31st episode and you've been here with me since the beginning. Thank you. And if this is your first episode, this is again, Yes Habits is all about creating a space where we ditch that perfection, build confidence through action and create those habits that create a Hell Yes life and light us up because who doesn't want to feel light? Light lit up, lit up.
That is the correct grammar. ⁓ But today's topic I want to talk about before I like, I like did that in the wrong order, but here we are. ⁓ Today's topic is balance. Or should I say the illusion of balance because I don't think balance actually exists. And here's why. How many of us
have chased this magical thing called quote unquote work-life balance. We hear it all the time, right? We're all striving for this work-life balance. Like it's a golden ticket to fulfillment. Like if we could just...
Elyse Bushard (03:55)
I don't think it actually exists at all. Like I don't think... Anyways, let's get into it. ⁓ We've been taught essentially that balance means giving equal energy to everything. Your job, your kids, your partner, your friends, your health, your dreams, all at once, all the time.
And in reality, life just doesn't work that way, right? There are seasons, there are priorities, and sometimes something's gonna give way and be off balance. Because when you're chasing, for instance, like a big career goal, you might not be as available socially. You just might not be because you're tired and you need sleep. So you ⁓ don't go out with your friends a lot or
And when you're in deep parenting mode, I'm not a parent, but I think I have parents listening to this, your work might take a back seat if you are trying to have a family or focused on your family. And then when you're healing or growing or surviving a hard season, everything might slow down. And it's not failure, it's life.
And what you're really feeling isn't imbalance, it's just misalignment. And here's the kicker though, what burns us isn't the imbalance part, it's when we're prioritizing things that don't actually matter to us. ⁓ So like if you're spending time pleasing people,
climbing a ladder you don't even want to be on in a job, ⁓ or saying yes when your soul is screaming no, that misalignment will wreck you faster than any workload ever could. But if you're in a season of hustle and it's towards something meaningful, that feels different, that hits different, and that imbalance might actually feel energizing because
It's on purpose and it makes you feel like you have purpose. So this is weird, but imagine like a seesaw because that's the only thing I could think of when I thought of like balance and it brought me back to being a kid. It's like, that was a fun playground thing. But imagine a seesaw. It's not this like frozen picture perfect
stillness, right? It's not just flat. It's movement and fluidity. It goes up and down. It gives and it takes. And there are moments where one side is just heavier. And that's okay, friends. The goal isn't to be perfectly balanced. This is why I say balance doesn't exist. ⁓ Because perfectly balanced every day, that isn't the goal.
The goal is to stay aware of what matters most right now and make peace with what has to wait. So that's not imbalance, that's intentional living.
And yeah, like I just want to repeat that because it's not imbalance. It's intentional living and living with that purpose. ⁓ And so it's actually not a bad thing if you're in alignment and you're like, great Elise, but how do we do this? How do we live this out? Here's your hell yes habit for the week, if you will. ⁓
is basically to do like a weekly priority check-in. I'm gonna start doing this because as I said at the beginning, my life has just been feeling off-kilter lately. And I feel like I'm not in control and I need to be in control because that's when I feel in alignment. Or sometimes,
You feel in alignment when you let go of things and you let go of things that you can't control. also, P.S., have a podcast episode about letting go of the uncontrollable. ⁓ Shameless plug for myself. Go back and listen to that one. ⁓ But every, let's say every Sunday night or Monday morning, you ask yourself these three questions. What matters most to me this week? What can wait?
without guilt and what do I need to say no to in order to protect my yes or my hell yes because that's how we do here. So what matters most to me this week? What can wait without guilt and what do I need to say no to in order to protect my hell yes? Write it down or keep it in your brain. Honor it.
and give yourself permission to let things be imperfect but aligned.
Once again, what matters most to me this week? What can wait without guilt? What do I need to say no to in order to protect my yes? So if I give you an example of this off the cuff, thinking this through myself, what matters most to me this week? So a lot of times that has to do with work, but sometimes it's actually trying something new.
⁓ so recently, if you listened to my last episode, you heard about this, but I picked up a basketball for the first time, I want to say in like 15 years. I mean, it's been a while. ⁓ and I just went outside to a park and I shot around and it wasn't like I was trying something new, but I was trying something again that I used to love and, ⁓ I loved it. And so.
That whole thing of like trying something new, sometimes that can be my thing for the week. Or it has to do with work. And then what can wait without guilt? Well, that's where I look at my schedule and I'm like, well I was gonna do laundry on Saturday, but that's the only time I have to try this new thing. So laundry can wait.
It's like little things like that. Or it's like looking at your calendar and being like, I was gonna go to this and I should go to this, but I need to let it go so I can focus on this so then I can focus on number one, what matters to me this week. And then number three is what do I need to say no to to protect my yes?
That can be also like those social things, engagements that you feel like you should be at, but you don't actually wanna be at, unless it has to do for work or things like that that maybe you're obligated to do ⁓ because there are situations. But that was just an example of me like live thinking through that. But again, we wanna honor that, we wanna write it down, and we wanna give ourselves that permission.
to let things be imperfect, but aligned for what we want and our goals. And it doesn't have to make sense to anyone else.
So yes, that was like, I know this was a short and punchy episode, but I just, I thought of this at the beginning of the week actually and I wrote it down because I'm like, doesn't fricking exist. This whole like striving for balance and honestly, we just need to stop striving for balance and start striving for clarity in our lives and alignment. And let's stop beating ourselves up.
when something's out of whack and instead ask, is this the right thing to be prioritizing right now? Remember that you're not failing if you feel off balance. You're just human. I don't know how many times I remind myself of this, is that we're just human and your version of a hell yes life is allowed to look different every single week. I'm proud of you.
Keep showing up, keep recalibrating, ⁓ and balance doesn't exist. But keep choosing also just what lights you up, not what boxes you in.
⁓ yeah. Until next time, say no to perfect balance and yes to aligned priorities. You were made for more. You were. And the next time someone says something to you about balance, be like, balance doesn't exist. And say for them to listen to my podcast. ⁓ I love you guys. If this episode hit home, as always.
Take a screenshot and share it to your stories and tag me. I would love to hear what resonated with you. And until next time, friends, I'll see you later. Bye.